Last weekend my big sister came to visit. She is going through a divorce at the moment and not in the nicest of circumstances. I really feel for her. She was only married 2 years and it has just made me realise how unimportant marriage is. I’ve never been a big fan of weddings, partly because I am quite shy and don’t like all the fuss. The thought of all the attention being on me, sends shudders down my spine, as well as the hideous expense they can be. Perhaps it’s because my parents divorced when I was little that makes me see marriage in a negative light and the fact that I am not religious. I just don’t see the benefit.
Neil and I have been together for 9 years this November and although I have occasionally thought it would be nice to be married and to call him my husband, I really don’t think it matters. I might cause a bit of controversy in saying this, but isn’t marriage just a piece of paper? It doesn’t prevent someone from leaving you, cheating on you, or make them love you anymore than if you were not married. I like the idea of marriage and what is should represent but I don’t think in this day and age it has the same meaning or significance. People don’t seem to take their vows seriously, they are just something you say. I’m not saying all people do this but it seems a lot do. Just look at divorce statistics. Surely you can take all the positive ideas from a marriage and apply them to your relationship without the need for formalities? What do you think?
On a lighter note we had a lot of fun when she visited. Some fun things we did: lunch in Sam’s Kitchen (who make salads taste amazing); coffee and chatting at The Loft, a spa session at Thermae Spa, pizza and beer while watching Pretty Woman (where we were able to recite all the lines “man, this baby corners like it’s on wheels” ).