You are Worthy

I spent a lot of time thinking about this before posting. I think our confidence comes heavily from the stories we quietly tell ourselves; its basis is found in our thoughts, which we derive from our experiences…things our parents told us as children that we carry through life, that we were told perhaps by peers when we were younger…we begin to form these stories and beliefs about ourselves…(oftentimes making them self-fulfilling prophecies.)

Confidence I think is easy when you see evidence of your success – projects you embark on are successful, you can afford all the material things you need, you get lots of attention from whatever sex you are attracted to, people naturally show you a level of respect…your parents often told you and maintain how amazing you are…who wouldn’t have high self worth in a situation like that…

But what happens when life just isn’t going your way? If you were scoring baskets all the time then suddenly you consistently missed you may begin to question your ability to score…how do you feel confident when life is throwing you beating after beating…

The strongest people I know are the ones who can still keep telling themselves a positive story even when the immediate evidence does not support. By now you should note a trend with my words. Let’s break this down:

1) External Validation – if you are continuously seeking the approval of others to validate your worth you will always have a problem. The day that approval doesn’t come you will feel unworthy. You need a strong internal belief in your own self worthiness.

2)Your thoughts – you have to be your greatest champion. If no one else will cheer for you; you have to cheer for yourself. If you keep telling yourself you are a loser you most certainly will be. If you are going to tell yourself anything, you might as well make it a winning story.

3) Comparisons – Stay in your lane and stop minding other people – your path is your path. You do not know the intricacies of other people’s lives. You do not know the stories they are telling themselves. Don’t compare yourself to the best parts you see of others. Walk your path.

4) Self Compassion – be gentle with yourself; no one is perfect. We can sometimes be our own harshest critics. You will mess up, that’s fine, that’s life.. forgive yourself, let go and move on…

Know as you exist; you are worthy.